Cranky Happiness Lady
| March 4, 2010 | Posted by Jodi Lee under Becoming Happier, Building Your Business, Life Lessons, latest post |
If you’ve looked around my blog at all, you’ll know that I am involved with personal development, and work in the field of happiness. I do workshops, lectures, keynotes, represent an amazing wellness company, and all that good stuff. So I’ve been called, on more than one occasion, the happiness lady.
Sigh….
Well, the happiness lady is cranky today. So there. I’m not even going to hide it, I’m just going to lay it out there for you all to see. No need to cringe, the world will not end because you read a negative sentence on blog. Your pristine positive mindset will not crumble.
(Ok, add scathing to the cranky.)
One of the most common questions I get in a workshop or even talking in new business partners, is about the law of attraction and how to handle the ‘bad’ thoughts. If I think bad things, they’ll come true, I’ve made all the bad stuff in my life happen, if I give into to my negative feelings, my life will go to rack and ruin, and so on…
Back up the bus.
Let’s get something clear once and for all. If the law of attraction worked like a magic wand, we’d all wave it, have everything we could ever want, and be done with blogs and relationships and networking and all that because it’d be manifested, poof, just like that. Well, sorry, that was never the intent.
Secondly, being a positive person does not equate to being Suzy Sunshine 24/7. Nope, wipe that grin off your face every now and then and get in touch with your real self.
Personal Development, positive psychology, happiness, positive mindset, and blah blah blah, never once said deny the other half of the equation. The gurus do not say you cannot be sad, angry, upset, annoyed, frustrated, and ticked right off.
That’s not real. That’s denial. That’s fake. And we do want authenticity.
The key message in any personal development and wellness lesson is this: What will you do?
Seriously, this is the key. Feel anything and everything, in fact it’s important to allow all feelings not just the wram fuzzy ones; think anything and everything.
Now choose your path. Choose your reaction. Choose your next thoughts, feelings, actions. This is the neglected feature.
So yes, I’m crabby today for a litany of reasons not appropriate for these pages. And I have chosen to acknowledge that, feel that (not super fun, but not agony either), and now it comes to the choice. What do to NEXT…?
Well, I decided to tell this story. I didn’t go yell at my kids, I didn’t slam any doors, I didn’t smash any dishes, and I didn’t pout (much). I decided I would just feel cranky, crabby, and sarcastic. I decided that I could channel this feeling into something productive, a new post. And I decided to forgive myself and allow myself to be human.
Perhaps you can too.
Great Post Jodi, It is so refreshing to hear how other people deal with their cranky pants days!! Love your blogs.
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I Love this Beth! It’s so funny that since The Secret became popular, so many people think they just have to sit around visualizing all that they want and they’ll get it. NO….it’s about visualizing, believing, and taking action!!
And yes, we need to allow ourselves to feel our emotions. Stuffing the “bad” crap can make us sick and crazy. When negative feelings and circumstances become obstacles (and they will…) we have a very decisive choice to make – either let them take you down, or take a higher road and take the opportunity to learn something or channel the negative into something positive.
Thanks for sharing your authentic self…I appreciate you!
Kathy Jodrey´s last blog ..Have You Given Yourself Permission to Receive?
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Great post even if you were cranky. I love the fact that you were honest about it. I love perky people filled with positive energy but it’s nice to know that occasionally, they have a day where they are cranky. Makes listening to them offer happy advice all the other days easier because you then know, they’re normal & have bad days just like the rest of us cranky people LOL that’s when you’re able to say “perk up” things will get better because you know that’s what they would tell you and you know it’s true.
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Hi Jodi, totally agree we all have moments when we feel less than 100% jubilant. You really said it though, it’s not what happens it’s what we do about it … the response. When I know I’m in this space I usually pop in a positive cd or pull out one of my favorite inspirational books. We are All human, thanks for such an authentic post I’m sure everyone can relate to.
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:25 am
Hi Kara,
Having stratgies in place help get over the speedbump faster, doesn’t it.
Jodi
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Oh can I relate! A mantra I use when I’m in that place comes to mind ~ “I give myself permission to be human….” Because you are so right, it IS ok to feel it all, in fact it’s healthy! The most important part is taking any perceived negatives, and once processed, turning them in to a positive.
Thanks for sharing your scathing, cranky self ~ so relatable!
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:26 am
Thanks Beth!
It’s important to have the feeling and then move on!!
Jodi
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Hey Jodi,
Those cranky days!! What I find works for me on those cranky days… is a good and extra strenuous workout. And then I am in a much better frame of mind to choose my reaction, my next thoughts, feelings, and actions.
As you mentioned the gurus don’t say you can’t have those bad days… it is what you do with them. That is the key we must work with!
Great post!
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:27 am
HOlly,
Yes, I have found that my running helps a lot. And not the running away, the running it off!
Jodi
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Some days we just need to be a little cranky. I worry about those people who smile everyday, all day, no matter what is going on around them. Frankly, it’s a tad bit scary lol
I enjoy your sense of humor and writing style so I’m sure I’ll be back to read more in the future.
~Angel
Angel Taylor´s last blog ..Learning to Have No Shame
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:27 am
Hi Angel,
Glad you came by. Yes, the fakey types are a bit unnverving!
Jodi
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Oh, my friend Jodi. You are so honest in this and your point is well taken that we must, above all, LIVE — meaning we must FEEL, too. This post is comforting, informative and a great reminder that ultimately, even the Happy Lady, has a choice to make every day of how she will respond to what hits her in the face. I love you, even when you’re cranky!
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:28 am
Thanks Val. It’s good to have someone in your cranky corner!!
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This hit home for me. I guess I do try to avoid my not so flattering emotions. Let’s be real. They are there sometimes.
The important thing is how you REACT, or if you REACT.
Thanks Jodi
You always have some really good stuff.
Nick Logan´s last blog ..By: Eric Goldstein
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:28 am
Thanks Nick.
They are there even if you pretend they aren’t. Best to make friends with them and move on…
Jodi
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Good for you! There has to be a balance in every life and sometimes it just happens.
Thanks for being so open and honest,
Val
Val Wilcox´s last blog ..The Power of YOU!
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 17th, 2010 at 11:24 am
Thanks Val!
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Thanks for your honesty and for admitting that not every day is sunshine and roses, not even for those of us who work in the wellness arena! I like your writing style. It is crisp and straight-forward.
~Mary Lou
Mary Lou Kayser´s last blog ..Why Saying Thank You Will Increase the Value of Your Personal Brand 100-Fold
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 8:02 pm
Mary Lou,
Thanks so much for your kind words. It’s liberating to be human, isn’t it.
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Love this post.Your sense of fun while giving some good advice makes this easy to read while still giving good information.
I love the last sentence,I decided to forgive myself and allow me to be human.
I will check back. Great Blog!
Beverly
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Jodi Lee Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 8:03 pm
Thanks Beverly, So glad you came by.
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